Gawd I am so sick of reading about Third Wave Feminism. I read Manifesta and it was a bunch of shit for the most part and mostly only relevant if you're rich, living in New York City and have friends with record contracts. I read Listen Up! and got sick of reading about how being fat is some how fighting a war against patriarchical conventions. My God, I just want to look good and wear my high heels. Think of that what you will, but I don't think wearing a short skirt, tight jeans or sexy shoes is somehow playing into some conspiracy rich white men created.
I'm tired of feeling bad about not fitting in the Third Wave box. It annoys me. I'm not going to feel bad for wanting to be sexy and I'm not going to pretend that the way I look is a big deal.
I know it's important to talk about these issues, but why are they at the center? Let's talk about welfare reform and universal pre-K and Roe v. Wade. Let's talk about diversity and immigration and other actual issues other than how long a skirt is or what the scale says. I don't care if your fat. I don't care if you shave your legs or not.
If the revolution is starting over whether it's oppressive to wear a miniskirt or not, I don't want to be part of it.
Apr. 10th, 2006
This is an odd moment for me in my life.
I think I'm coming to terms with being a pro-choice but pro-life inclined feminist. It's odd, my whole life I've been adamantly pro-choice but over the past 2 years I've been pro-life inclined. Maybe the problem is the labels both sides place on the argument.
I had conference with Lyde today and we talked about my Third Wave Feminism paper.
"The third wave makes me feel more pro-life," I said to her in a dreadful tone.
"What's so wrong with that?" she asked.
And maybe for the first time I realize that there's nothing wrong with feeling that way. Maybe the problem is trying to fit into the box of pro-life or pro-choice. Maybe the problem is pro-choice often means the right choice is abortion and it's not about choice at all. I think 3rd Wave feminists get into this rut that abortion is the only choice and that if you choose to bear children you are somehow playing into the white man's patriarchy.
Also if we lived in a country that had comprehensive sex education, I think it'd be easier for me to be more pro-life (god, that term makes me cringe), but a lot of things have to change fiscally with the government before that happens. Not just fiscally but ideologically. If you don't want women to have abortions, then you have to give them knowledge and the power to know her options, not just slap her on the wrist for not knowing.
Some Interesting Statistics
49% of pregancies are unintended
24% of these pregnancies end in abortion
2/100 women age 15-44 every year have an abortion
48% (about 1/100) have had at least 1 previous abortion
54% of these women used contraceptives in the month they got abortion
8% have never used an contraceptives
<lj-cut text="On a lighter note, things that happened on August 12!!) According to Wikipedia, on August 12 (my birthday): 30 BC - Cleopatra died 1851 - Isaac Singer granted a patent for his sewing machine (yay for clothes!) 1898 - The Hawaiian flag is lowered from Iolani Palace in an elaborate annexation ceremony and replaced with the American flag to signify the transfer of sovereignty from the Republic of Hawaii to the United States. (Go Imperialization!) 1952 - The Night of the Murdered Poets - Prominent Jewish intellectuals were murdered in Moscow. (Go killing Jews!) 1990 - Sue, the most complete skeleton of a Tyrannosaurus rex, was discovered near Faith, South Dakota. (Ew--dinosaurs)